It's hard to narrow down recommendations for books
about polyamory, there are a number of books which cover
very different aspects of the subject. Here are a
pair of very complementary books which cover the subject
as well as any two I can think of.
Dr. Anapol has recently
completed this updated version of the most popular
book on polyamory available. And its popularity
is deserved, Love Without Limits is essential reading
for the newly polyamorous.
One of the best features of this book is its coverage
of the emotional issues that can come up in polyamorous
relationships, such as jealousy. Anapol has a lot to
say about managing and understanding the forces of
jealousy -- information that could be useful to people
in any sort of relationship.
Anapol also touches on the spiritual aspects of
polyamorous relationships, and doesn't hold back
her dreams of making the world a better place.
Aryan rates this book a
9 (Truly Delightful) and says:
An excellent source of information, experiences, practices, difficulties,
successes and delights of polyamory !
Arguably (although I won't 'argue about it!) one of the very best books on the subject
to date.
Chris Otter rates this book a
9 (Truly Delightful) and says:
I loved the list of reasons why "Polyamory might be right for you".
I felt that they were very close to my own reasons, and that helped me
verbalize and explain what I enjoyed about polyamory and why I chose
it for myself.
The book discusses flexible realationships mostly (new paradigm) which
I relate to, but I point this out because my partner did not care for it for the same reason.
Lilith rates this book a
6 (Good) and says:
This book focuses on emotional aspects & spirituality of poly relationships, and discusses "new paradigm" relationships extensively. For those who prefer more of a practical take on things, the chapter on jealousy will be helpful but the rest of the book may seem somewhat judgemental if "new paradigm" is not your preference. Still worth buying, though!
Sacha Lane rates this book a
10 (Best Available Book on the Subject) and says:
I love this book! My husband, Nate never doubted his feelings on our open marriage (formally open relationship). His mother did a wonderful thing when she taught him to be so open-minded. I, on the other hand, had a terrible time coming to terms with how I felt. This book did a wonderful job helping me put my feelings into words, so that I could express them. It also was wonderful to find out that my husband and I are not the only people out there with our beliefs. I have always known that I can love more than one person, but it doesn't take away from the love I have for my husband. However, I still felt guilty sometimes, because of how I was raised. I'm so thrilled to find that Nate and I aren't the only people out there who feel this way. I hope that others take an interest in this book and are open-minded enough to go against society and overcome our "learned behavior".
As you have probably guessed
from the title, Easton and Liszt do not shy away from
saying what they want. And in the world of polyamory,
that skill is invaluable.
The authors cover a large number of topics involved
in having multiple sexual relationships, looking at
everything from STDs and dealing with the societal
pressures against polysexuality to negotiation and
relationship skills.
One of the many strengths of this book for many readers
is its very direct, step-by-step explanations of
(for example) negotiating types of sexual behavior.
There's also some very interesting material about
jealousy, insecurity, and some interesting thoughts
about where those feelings come from.
Another strength of this book is the direct, friendly
tone of the authors. They make this book a great
deal of fun to read.
Kristin Bowman (Lilyplume @ hotmail.com rates this book a
10 (Best Book Available on the Subject) and says:
This book is the most informative, thorough, well-written book I have found on the subject of polyamory and sluthood. Personally, it has helped me understand my own sexual desires and actions. It also helps its reader decide exactly what kind of lifestyle fits them, and how they can go about satisfying their needs in the most respectful and caring way. I recommend it to anyone, Straight, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Asexual. This book is lifechanging. Read it!!!
Tania rates this book a
9 (Truly Delightful) and says:
I was thrilled to finally find a book on the subject of polyamory.
It was the first sign of hope I found for us.
I can only say that I wept with
joy to find out we were not alone.
It could be used as a textbook for the polyamorous--as
a matter of fact I used a highliter to mark the parts I thought
were the most relevent to my situation.
Liz rates this book a
9 (Truly Delightful) and says:
As a good friend of mine put it, this book
should be "required reading for being alive."
Even if you are behaviorally monogamous
you will learn something about managing your
emotions and being a good partner for one or
as many as you desire.
Bill rates this book a
7 (Very Good) and says:
A very interesting and well-written book. Contains a
lot of useful tips for having a
polysexual relationship. However I felt there wasn't enough
coverage of the emotional/romantic
aspect of polyamory.
Lilith rates this book a
10 (Best Book Available on the Subject) and says:
This book has so many good points, it's impossible to list them all! The non-judgemental attitude, practical tips, personal experiences, comprehensive subject coverage, and friendly tone of the authors are the best parts. If you can only purchase one book about polyamory, it should be this one!
janedoe (janeuser613 @ hotmail.com rates this book a
10 (Best Book Available on the Subject) and says:
The Ethical Slut is one of the best books i have read in a long time. It's a great reminder that we are all human, and we can all enjoy each other as long as we respect each other. Many thumbs up!
His Little Flower rates this book a
10 (Best Book Available on the Subject) and says:
I Really enjoyed the book because it gave me some insight on just how far your partner will go, to continue his hidden lifestyle, and try and keep me happy at the same time. Only a Selfish person would lead him to believe that it could work this way.
Cheryl A. Cross rates this book a
10 (Best Book Available on the Subject) and says:
As a sexuality educator/counselor and therapist I have had the pleasure of working with many individuals and couples who are moving into or curious about responsible non-monogomy. This is the first book I reference whenever the occasion comes up. Writing and life partners, Easton and Liszt have combined their own polyfidelity experiences together with a friendly writing style that anyone can understand. This honest portrayal and "guide" to Polyamory is essential to those considering, entering into or engaging into any type of sexual and or emotional relationships involving two or more people. A++
